Here is a way to experience Control versus Surrender. Clench your fist.
Make your hand so tight that nothing can slip through into your palm.
What would you do if I wanted to put $1,000 into the palm of your hand
Would you keep your fist clenched or would you surrender your clenched hand
to accept what I am offering?
Life works the same way.
When your mind is clenched,you cannot open yourself to the opportunities
you deserve. Here is a quote from Lao Tzu - "He who grasps, loses."
Surrender happens when you do what you can do in the moment and let go of
the things that are outside of your control.